So he starts talking about how this fabulous woman wants to perhaps turn their friendship into a dating or intimate relationship but she isn't sure. He is making plans to see her and I tell my serious long distance boyfriend/partner to enjoy his time with her. I've had the chance to communicate with her and everyone knows whats up. She is respectful & courteous. What more could I ask for in a lover, mate or girlfriend for my boyfriend? After all the open relationship was my idea.
There are some tough times. Things are not always easy. Now I find that I like seeing how others can benefit from his kindness and giving spirit without feeling like I am losing anything. I enjoy the flexibility, and communication of our arrangement. Yes the relationship is open on both ends and I have a lover. We also have our agreed upon boundaries, and rules if you will. Respect and safe sex are primary for all involved. Also there is a wider range of support within the relationship as opposed to cutting off mates or friends solely because of the primary relationship. There is also the option to negotiate different needs and desires as time progresses, as opposed to stifling them and holding on to a rigid antiquated foundation that may have worked a year or ten ago, but doesn't work at the present time. Most of all it forces everyone to be accountable for their own insecurities. At this point I can't see myself going back to monogamy whether its long distance or local. Non monogamy is more common than most think.
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Check out this great clip from Carl (Rahkem Seku) and Kenya Stevens a couple that's been married for 14 years, with children and are huge advocates for broader views of relationships. They were featured on the Mo'Nique Show, ABC News, Fox News and most recently the Dr. Phil Show
If you have more questions whether they are about raising children or managing jealousy within an open relationship and are interested in the specific nuances of polyamory this is the most informative and thorough article that I have seen to date written by Kate Loree for Good Vibrations Magazine Polyamory